Guest Post on ShuGar Love

allyouneedisloveprojectThe All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

Today’s #AllYouNeedIsLoveProject segment is on the topic of forgiveness. Head over to ShuGarLove.com to read what I have to say about it and it’s impact on love.
Also, stay tuned for an upcoming session of MomViews with insights from Mrs. ShuGar on being a first-time mother in her mid-30′s.

 

My Favorite Love Quote

The All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

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Last week’s Love Topic:
What is your fave love quote? Why? What do you think about what Neruda describes when it comes to love? Do you agree?

“Breathe out, so I can breathe you in. Hold you in.” – Everlong, Foo Fighters.

There’s something about this line that always gives me the chills. It’s the best way to describe passion — taking the person’s breath away. Growing up, I loved the video to this song. I was young, and in love with the weirdness. With time and maturity I fell in love with the true meaning behind its lyrics.

As for Pablo Neruda’s quote, I have always been fascinated with his words. Funny enough, this quote is one of my personal favorites. It is the purest form of love — a reaction to actions of kindness. No selfishness, yet selflessness. Becoming one with the person. :)

Your turn.

Want to join in? Cool! You don’t need a blog, you can just take photos and use the hashtag #allyouneedisloveproject — it’s that simple. But, if you have a blog and want to join us each Thursday, you’re more than welcome to do so.

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MomViews: Homeschooling Your Children

MomViews Motherhood Through My EyesParents must be the first to educate their children on the importance of learning. There are many reasons why parents make the decision to homeschool their children. Today, we share insights from Amber Mathison, blogger at FromABCstoACTs and a former teacher turned homeschool parent after the birth of her first child.

MomViews: Congrats on the birth of your daughter, Skylar! Your blog, FromABCstoACTs focuses on tips for homeschooling your children. It appears to be a common trend among former school teachers. Can you share some thoughts on why you decided to homeschool your children?

AM: Thank you!  My blog does focus a lot on homeschooling your children, specifically young children right now since my son, Nicholas, is preschool age because school really does start at home.  I too, have noticed that quite often, former teachers make the choice to homeschool and while I can’t speak for all former teachers, my main reasoning for wanting to homeschool my own children came from knowing that Nicholas would need that one-on-one attention.  He was diagnosed early last year as non-verbally Autistic and that just set me on the path to figuring out what would work best for him, what would help him learn and succeed to the best of his ability.

Right after his diagnosis, he started attending speech therapy sessions with other children his age so that they could interact with one another but he quickly became one of many in a group that a single speech therapist couldn’t attend to on her own.  After a couple of months and no progress in his speech we made the decision to pull him out and I started working with him every day on his speech, among other skills, at home.  After just 6 months of this he has made tremendous progress and is using more words on daily basis than most people thought he ever would.  We still have a long way to go with his ability to communicate but I really believe that he wouldn’t have made this amount of progress within a group.  He thrives on one-on-one attention and my husband and I decided to homeschool to make sure that he gets that.

MV: What issues did you face while deciding whether or not homeschooling was the right choice? 

AM: Rules and regulations.  Hands down!  Homeschooling laws are some of the most confusing, I think :).   We knew that homeschooling was what we wanted but finding and deciphering the laws for the state we’re in wasn’t the easiest thing in the world.  While homeschooling is legal in all 50 states, the laws vary from state to state and one of my main concerns was that I would miss something in one of the homeschooling laws and once Nicholas was old enough to actually be “school age,” there would be issues with the school system or the state.

MV: You’ve been married to your husband Eric since 2008. Was he always supportive in your decision to homeschool your children?

AM: He was!  We both went to public school growing up so I was a little worried when I mentioned it for the first time that he would have a lot of reservations about it or that he would outright be against even considering the idea but I was pleasantly surprised to find that he had been thinking along the same lines that I was.

MV: What does homeschooling mean to you and your children?

AM: We’re still really in just the preschool stage, but for us, homeschooling means that our children will get that one-on-one attention in the “classroom.”  With Nicholas especially, he’s proven to us time and again that he needs that to thrive and to succeed and homeschooling allows us to give that to him.

MV: What advice would you give to a mother who is considering whether or not to homeschool her child(ren)? 

AM: To anyone that is considering homeschooling, I would say first and foremost, do your research.  Don’t take someone’s word for the laws and regulations in your area, don’t go off of what someone else says your child should have learned by a certain age.  Do your research, make your own decisions.  Every child is different, every child has different needs and will learn at their own pace.  The beautiful thing about homeschooling is that it can be so easily tailored to the individual child.  Don’t waste that by doing what everyone else is doing.

Secondly, find a support group.  We live in a really small town but even here, I’ve found quite a few homeschooling groups.  Most of the parents in that group have homeschooled for years and have been where you are!  They know the ins and outs, the ups and downs and most of them are more than willing to answer any questions that you have.  I mean, who better to ask than someone who has been in your shoes right?  They can help you navigate your state’s laws, introduce you to other homeschoolers (who may just become some of your child’s best friends) and they can point you in the right direction when it comes to curriculum choices, community activities for homeschoolers and more.

Finally, if you do decide that homeschooling is the right decision for your family, make it fun!  Young children especially, learn through play.  You can continue that as they get a bit older.  If you treat homeschooling, or education in general, like a chore, eventually you and your child both are going to hate it.  Switch things up!  Very few people want to learn math by reading lessons from a book, so if you’re trying to teach your child patterns, make some.  Dump out the LEGOs and make patterns with the colors.  If you’re trying to teach your child fractions or measurements, bake some cookies together and use the recipe as a learning tool.  Whatever you do, whatever subjects fill your school day, make them enjoyable and not only will your child retain what their supposed to be learning but they’ll build a love of education that will last them for the rest of their lives.

Join me next week for insights on how a mom of two supports her husband’s passion.
Also, don’t forget to tune in tomorrow via ShuGarLove’s website for my views on forgiveness.   

Teachings Tuesday: Letting Go Is Okay

Letting Go

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I read this quote on one my good friend’s Instagram page and it made me a bit emotional. If you have given someone your all — family, friend or significant other — and decided that parting ways would be best, then this is for you.

You understand your limit. You’ve given someone, something your all and watched it fall apart. Walking away doesn’t feel right, but when does it ever? There’s a beauty in letting go that you’ll find in time. I’ve given up on people and things that stood in the way of my happiness. The emotions I felt while I read these words were of happiness. When you let go, I mean really let go of all the BS in your life, you’ll be able to find that space you’ve been keeping within your heart to love yourself and everything and everyone in your life. You’ll fall in love with the beauty of life. That’s all you need to enjoy it. So, go! Leave it behind, you’ll thank yourself.

Have a wonderful Tuesday.

‘Til tomorrow…

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Motivation Monday: You Are Amazing

I recently had a conversation with a family member about “not being good enough,” and the more I talk to people the more I realize people tend to feel this way quite often. I don’t know where it comes from, but we need to stop this. No one told us we’re not good enough, we just feel this way. Forget your insecurities and remember your successes.

You are amazing

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Hope you’re having a wonderful Monday, loves.

 

‘Til tomorrow…

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In Love With Thursdays

i love thursdays

I was always a fan of Wednesdays — it’s the middle of the week — but ever since I met Jeff, Thursdays have taken its place. Thursdays have always been our days, and I love them. I look forward to spending most of my day with him — they’re like Valentine’s Day except I share my time with our boys.

Mornings are similar to the rest of the week: Jeff will spend time with Rocky at the park while I make breakfast for the family. We’ll eat and head out to enjoy a beautiful day. If it’s raining, we’ll watch a movie on the couch. Sometimes we meet up with Jeff’s brother and his family for a beach day or just to hang out. Either way, it’s a great day because I get to spend it with my love.

 

Now, excuse me… I have a date with my boys. :)

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MomViews: Doing It On Your Own

 

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EpicmommyadventuresBeing a mother can be a wonderful experience. But when you have to take on two roles — both mother and father — it gets tough. Natasha Peter, blogger at Epic Mommy Adventures, shares her experience as a single parent. Below is her feedback.

MomViews: There has to be a name for a mother that can do it all on her own. You’d make Superwoman jealous. You have a wonderful little boy who is full of adventures. How do you keep up with him?

Natasha Peter:  Some days are more difficult than others, but overall, a lot of it has to do with creating a mental schedule of when we do things. I have learned to distract him when needed, engage in tons of play at other times, and relax with him at other times. He’s a great child, I must admit, and he makes being a single parent that much easier to deal with.
MV: What role does Micah’s father play in his life? Is he an active father? 
 
NP: Micah’s father does play a big role in his life; however, he is not as active as I would like him to be. We have set up child support and shared custody, where Micah goes to his house every other weekend. He does not attend events or activities at Micah’s school nor is he involved when Micah is ill. We are co-parenting in the sense that Micah goes to his house every other weekend, but beyond that, he is not overly involved.

MV: Did you face any issues when you decided single-parenting was the best for your son? 
 
NP: It was really hard deciding to leave Micah’s father and becoming a single parent. I questioned if I was doing the right thing or whether or not we’d be able to make it. I faced judgment and criticism from some, but overall I experienced tons of support. My mom was living near us at the time and she was a huge help in making the transition very easy. We have had some hard times but we have persevered.


MV: 
What is it about Micah that you love most?

NP
: I really love everything about Micah. He is smart, adorable, full of energy, sassy and possibly the most lovable child you will meet. He can warm your heart with these incredible hugs. I have friends that come over when they’re having a rough day just to get one of his hugs. I also love that he makes me strong – he forces me to believe that any thing is possible and that we will be okay. Even on the roughest of days and there have been plenty, I know that we will come through fine.


MV:
 What advice would you give to a single parent struggling to raise their child(ren)?

NP
: There is a light at the end of the tunnel. It doesn’t seem that way when you’re in the darkness, but soon enough, you will see the light at the end and you’ll gladly walk towards it. Support of others is also huge. Even if your support is not friends or family, there are people willing to be there for you and to help you through all the difficult times and laugh with you during the good times. You will be okay in time.


Be sure to check out Natasha’s blog, Epic Mommy Adventures and say hi on Twitter.

Next week’s session will share insights from a former teacher who decided to homeschool her children. Stay tuned! 

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